You don't want them back, but you don't want to keep being reminded of what could have been.
There is no clear-cut rule when it comes to love and friendship.
I can honestly say there are some ex-boyfriends that, if they find happiness, God bless them, because I know it was crazy between us.
But there are two ex-boyfriends who hold a special place in my heart because even though I know it could never work between us, I recognize the impact we each had in each other's lives.
And because they are familiar with all the dirt on him, they wouldn't touch him.
Unless she’s a serial killer (I wouldn’t get on her bad side) or you know she is keeping 12 other lovers in addition to this one, that’s not kosher, cool, or any other variation thereof.
Put yourself in your friend’s shoes and imagine how you might feel if the situation was reversed.
That said, at the end of the day you should do what’s truly best for you.
Editor's note: Audrey Irvine is a senior assignment manager for CNN.