As gay men, one of the hardest obstacles we face is trusting that we're okay because we're gay.
The more you dial in, trust yourself and stop second-guessing, the more you'll rely on your own instincts and create the dating situations that are right for you.
But baby, you gotta trust yourself because their ain't no one else that's gonna do it for ya.
Whether it's a first date, casual dating or dating to mate, gay guys face the same challenges as everyone else.
If you're new to a city or just looking for ideas on how to meet more people, check out our city dating guides for singles.So, instead of fighting over the newest man meat on Grindr, I recommend these practical tips for gay men:1. Plus, being honest with yourself is a great launching pad for honesty in your relationship. Do you always say: "Gay dating is such a chore," or, "Gay men just want sex," or "Every gay guy I meet only wants to talk about themselves? "For example, "Gay dating is such a chore." So What? "If it's not fun, then I might as well just stay home." So what? or at least that's what the replay of the tape your listening to is saying. Finally, let the fun-loving gay dater in you out to play. Just because "Bryce" dates like a mad man doesn't mean he's more datable than you. Conversely, making sex the secondary acquisition can also be a home run. After all, if he thinks you're afraid, you probably are, and your sweaty armpit stains will rat you out!Our dating guides will walk you through all the best places to find love, from singles bars to community activities!You’ve seen him in the bar – he’s the grey-haired, much older man sitting with his hand on a much younger guy’s thigh.Friends of Tom Daley, who recently revealed he’s in a relationship with a man, say that finding love with Milk writer Dustin Lance Black, a man 20 years older than him, was the catalyst to him talking publically about his sexuality.However, it’s often the case that being in a long-term, committed relationship with an older or younger man must still raise eyebrows from some quarters.“Then I met with Dennis at a bar in Vauxhall, London, and we hit it off straight away.But the age gap worried me, even though the more time we spent together, the more we got on.The only difference is they do it with class, sass and still get a piece of ass when it's done right!Rick Clemons, The Coming Out Coach, is a Certified Professional Coach and an expert featured on The Ricki Lake Show and on numerous other radio shows, in print and on national blogs.