Here’s how much less interested they were in the other races, as compared with their enthusiasm for men of their own race: Click here to read the whole article: Update: But wait, there’s some “good news” from those same researchers. Eastwick, Inter-racial dating is the majority of what I have done since I began dating!
A few days later, after looking at 300 reader comments, researchers sent some surprising news back.“The researchers realize that their results can be depressing, but they also agree with the many readers who caution against reading too much into the preferences of online daters and speed daters. I married a black man, who I am now (17 years later) divorcing, but the point is that I think the world is FULL of potential, why limit yourself?
I will be honest that the repeated number of experiences I have had with this have completely changed the way I feel about dating, which I have not done in quite a while and am not sure I want to do again.
Having something not work out is one thing, but repeatedly being exposed to overt and covert racism is another, and I don’t see any way of solving the problem.
I’m Asian American, and what I have consistently found is that when I am dating someone, once the relationship becomes committed, the tone of the relationship changes and suddenly I am asked or expected to perform subservient duties–cooking, cleaning, child care, pet care, all these kinds of things.
I have asked my white female friends if this happens to them, and they have repeatedly said NO.
I yawned my way through weeknights with a tutor or at a prep program, and I spent my Saturdays at Korean school hating life while learning how to be a better Korean. "You're not married to this so-called boyfriend of yours yet — what's the big deal? Actually, just be willing to eat everything when you're around me.
What you feel is subjugation may be nothing more than different views on marital roles.
For example, if a woman wants her partner to earn more money because it allows her to lead an upper-middle-class life, does that mean she’s a “gold-digger? Yet, you’re using that same exact logic to assume the worst of all men. But this is: Your solution doesn’t rest in leaving Texas or changing others’ antiquated views of Asians.
I will acknowledge I’ve never walked a mile in your shoes, so my knowledge of your situation is only limited to what you shared with me and what I believe to be true (as a white, upper-middle class, straight married man in Los Angeles.)One sentence in your email really stood out.
A man can desire a woman who is willing to make him dinner or do his laundry sometimes without wanting her to be his “domestic servant.”Women like this (I know; I married one) use a different word to describe their plight: wife.