No-one will ever be able to fill the place in your heart, or life, that your loved one held, they were unique and your relationship with them will remain treasured.A new partner will bring new challenges, energy and hope into your life.Don’t say you’re over the loss or that it’s not important because it happened years ago.Your loss is important because it happened to you, and anyone who thinks any otherwise should not be in your life. Don’t expect your significant other to understand If you’re comfortable opening up to your significant other about the person who died, it’s fair to expect your significant other to offer a listening ear, comforting words and a shoulder to cry on.
Dealing with guilt Feeling disloyal to a partner is the main block widowed people face.
When you are thinking about what is important to you in a partner try to concentrate, not on what you have lost, but on what you want for your future – what do you want to experience?
Maybe you would like to travel more or learn to ski for example?
Whatever it is, concentrating on the future and what you want from it will help ensure you don’t get to the end of your life wishing you had lived more. If you start the dating process, maybe subscribing to e Harmony, writing a profile or even going on some dates, and realise that you aren’t quite ready it is ok to stop and give yourself more time.
Keep talking to people and maybe consider getting some professional bereavement counselling if you feel as though you are stuck and unable to move forward.