She gets stuck in affairs with men who never commit, and it’s often the nice guys who are interested in her who bear the brunt of her hurt and anger.
The Scaredy Cat he Scaredy Cat has been emotionally wounded by men in the past, and she can’t let go of it.
She’s looking for her guy to be interesting, keep her laughing, ask her all about herself, and give her butterflies…all on the first date. That man then makes a poor impression (understandably), and the date is chalked up to another “he just wasn’t right for me” experience.
The Wow Me Woman is often single for a very, very long time.
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You know that dating after 40 (or at any stage of life, for that matter! When you appreciate the same is true for the men you date, it will go a long way toward building compassion and, in turn, building relationships. I have gotten no push back, and it sets the level of manners for the rest our time(s) together.
Like you, the men you’re dating have lived and learned. The only way you can empathize is to know their side of the story.
Just like how you’ve dated your share of challenging types of men like the disappearing/reappearing Pinger, the Couch Potato, and the older-and-balder-than-his-profile-guy…men meet and enter into relationships with less-than-impressive types of women.
By default, she clings to the same type of guy she wanted in high school or college. (See the Wow Me Woman below.)The nice, relationship-minded men get quickly discarded by the 18-year-old.
Try as he might, the 60-year-old fabulous guy can’t measure up to her expectations because she’s looking for a man who doesn’t exist.