In another time or place, I would have looked in the mirror and thought I looked hot. I had a quick chat with a feminist friend of mine, and she said “ugh, fucking men and porn ruins everything.” And like…I don’t totally disagree with that, but I kind of feel like that’s not the whole story. In fact, often women seem to be more vocally superficial in the first few dates than men do (presumably, because we punish men more for their outbursts of superficiality) but somehow men leave me feeling worse.
Instead, cover the opening with your finger and carefully flip bottle upside down.
And, while I appreciate the feminist research that has gone into things like studying how this commercialist exploitation of hyper-beautiful models impacts women, I feel like we may be getting a little led astray here.
Because here’s the thing; when I was dating women, I still saw those images; they just didn’t bug me as much.
Society doesn’t allow for the blame-absolving narrative of “that girl turned me on so much it wasn’t my fault” when it comes to a fat chick because society pretends fat chicks aren’t hot.
That’s where all this male anger at big women comes from; it’s not because men don’t desire them, I experienced some version of this the other night.