Are you always up for something fun and spontaneous?
Do you like to feel the occasional rush of adrenaline and stimulation?
I’ve heard so many different rules about dating someone older, and they all boil down to a magic number: “Don’t date anyone more than ten years older,” or “Marriages never work if there’s more than fifteen years’ difference.” People love rules, telling themselves that abiding by them will cause them to get hurt less. The most important rule to follow is a general one: Make sure the two of you have the same goals for the relationship and for your daily life together. Think about whether you want to get married; have a big or tiny wedding; have children; be with someone who already has kids; live in the future in the same town or city where you’ve been dating; move somewhere far or close; have extended family very involved or not very involved in your life; have a relationship where you socialize almost always together or often; have a partner who’s more of a social butterfly or homebody; and have a partner who is very involved or not very involved in extracurricular activities. Psychological Age You’ve probably heard someone say, “He seems young for his age,” or “She’s so young at heart.” Though we all have a chronological age, we also have what I refer to as a ‘psychological age.’ How old do you feel, for example? In addition, ask yourself what the psychological age is of your prospective older partner. Again, use those early months of a relationship to gauge whether your sexualities are congruent enough.
Don’t embrace any rigid rule about age differences. Don’t be fooled into thinking that just because someone is older, he or she isn’t very sexual.
Now, insert a significantly older partner in that picture.While many women find older men attractive dating partners, a relationship with an older guy may not always be a perfect situation.Different people have different needs, and you must make sure that your guy is capable of fulfilling you physically, emotionally and mentally.Do your homework and get to know your new crush well before you let yourself truly fall in love.You’d never guess, but caution can, in fact, lead to powerful lasting love.When talking, he may make references to shows or events that you don't even remember, so it could be hard to find common discussion ground.If you are looking to settle down and have a family, an older man may not be the right choice for you. Assess Your Respective Sexualities Though I find that most people overemphasize the importance of sex and sexual attraction, intimacy is a factor worth considering. You’re not going to a get a true picture about someone’s lifestyle in a month; give yourself a few months of dating to make sure that you’ve seen him or her in as many real-life situations as possible.As a result of the age difference, he may like different music, books, movies and television shows.Your interests may be completely different, and the two of you may have a difficult time connecting on a shared activity.