The first touch or kiss from a new guy carries an amazing tingle, just like the quiver you felt the first time a guy slid into second base or let his fingers wander within a few inches of third.
The second time’s the charm when it comes to dating.To be clear — this isn’t about agreeing to a pity date, or anything to that effect.Second dates are an opportunity to actually see if there are indeed “fireworks” or “chemistry,” with less nervousness there to put out the sparks.A fleeting touch of your silky, smooth fingers on his cheek, the smell and feel of your hair, or an unexpected peck on the cheek as you get up from your table at the restaurant will make a strong man swoon and burn with anticipation for the next simple touch you might choose to bestow upon him.There is no need to invite him over for a second date and come to the door covered in whipped cream.Relevant here is the story of me and my husband, to whom I’ve been married for nearly thirteen years. I was five minutes late because I passed the turn to the restaurant — literally five minutes late. The hostess asked me if I was looking for someone, and I gave her the name for the reservation. I turned to leave, and (luckily) he walked back in the door.I sheepishly followed him to our table, where he proceeded to interrogate me.“There just wasn’t any chemistry.”“I didn’t feel a spark.”“No fireworks.”I assumed women were the ones to believe in love-at-first-sight. If you live in the suburbs or country, you have to worry about driving, traffic and parking. Don’t even think about the added anxiety if something goes wrong along the way — causing you (or your date) to be late! With most matchmaking services, you don’t see a photo of (or speak to) your date before you get there. Next comes a flood of decisions-made and second-guessing: If I order the pork belly, will my date think I’m a pig?Shockingly, I have way more male clients who seem to fall for fate, expressing disinterest in second dates due to a lack of "chemistry." Come on, guys. You are meeting a stranger for the very first time, in a romantic setting. You have to decide what to wear, how to style your hair and if you should wear cologne or not. If I have another drink, will my date think I’m an alcoholic? There are so many choices to make, you can’t possibly focus on your date as a person. There is so much stress on both parties that true personality rarely shines through.You never know what introduction may lead to a relationship.If you’re matched up on a date by a matchmaker or a friend, there is a reason for it — they saw some sort of thread that would connect the two of you.