In the end, he actually helped me realize my true self by forcing me to assess boundaries.He was such an unpredictable, gas-lighting crazy maker I had no other choice but to say "Wait a second. Who exactly am I, if I know I am not what he accuses me of being?The issues experienced by the significant others of those with disorders cannot always be discussed in the other parts of the site in a way that does not trigger those with disorders.Moderators may therefore move threads from other forums into this one at their discretion.This in tandem with his extremely intense emotions make me feel he was born with perceptual and emotional gifts into an invalidating environment.
I think one or both of them may be narcissists, and the entire family is enmeshed in one group identity because of it.
suspect my 28 year old boyfriend suffers from Borderline Personality Disorder.
We've been dating for 5 years now, and at the beginning when we were both young, he effectively destroyed me.
It's his sense of self this family is wrapped around validating, with mom some kind of side narcissist feeding off the children being at home with her.
How can I help my partner, in an everyday way, detach from this dysfunctional pattern of relating?