Charming 23 percent Sociopaths have a way with words.
This is how sociopaths create the whirlwind romance, how sociopaths sweep you off your feet.Of course, I now know that he was on a mission to snag a target, and was simultaneously treating several other women exactly the same way. It would certainly be easier to spot sociopaths if they always acted like jerks. Within them, you’ll see the tactics I described as the Suppose you’re an average person in the dating world not a supermodel, top jock or movie star. Asks questions about your past, your ideas, your desires, and listens carefully to your answers.Unfortunately, they don’t, at least not in the beginning. As an average person, there are probably times when you feel underappreciated, even ignored. You have a date with a guy, he says he’ll call, and you never hear from him again. Then you meet someone new, and suddenly you’re the most important person in the world. Your friend makes no secret of his or her interest in you, showering you with compliments, flattery, gifts and dates.Physical appearance, of course, is a big part of any romantic attraction.Survey respondents described the sociopaths they were involved with as beautiful, handsome, gorgeous and cute.Personality 18 percent Respondents described the sociopaths as pleasant, fun and exciting.In addition to these themes, 12 percent of survey respondents said that the sociopaths were honest, had good character or shared their values. Another 11 percent mentioned sexual attraction, and 7 percent said they had similar interests. When sociopaths overwhelm you with attention and affection, they are not sharing the spontaneous outpouring of love in their hearts.They are employing premeditated tactics designed to achieve their objectives of power, control and sex.He wore a sport coat when he took me out to dinner. I interpreted these gestures as signs of his budding affection. They may actually test different strategies, and if one seems to be floundering, switch to another.Had Montgomery behaved like a jerk stood me up, acted out in public, flirted with other women in front of me I would have dumped him. While he was reeling me in, he was a perfect gentleman. Yes, it was far too soon but I’d heard all those fairy tales about love at first sight. I didn’t realize that all his expressions of affection were empty lies. The strategies are attention, mirroring and expressions of love.