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This is a character who believes that non- actively heteronormative individuals are bad or 'unnatural' and thus must be unsatisfied, incomplete, or immoral.

Now you go outside and practice football like a good little heterosexual.

It is being set up by friends on dates with high femme people, when my attraction is to masculinity because as a masculine presenting trans* person my attraction to masculinity is me being "difficult".

So, let me say it here, I'm queer, I'm trans* and I deserve a whole lot of love. I didn't really want this to be a list blog, but hey, I go where the mood takes me.

I didn't realize I was doing anything differently from my friends until the first time it happened.

I was on a date with a beautiful butch woman, and I put my hand on the small of her back.

What tends to come up in my dating scenarios is a whole lot of crap relating to the internalized homo and transphobia sitting just under the surface of my potential relationships.

Whether it has been folks that got used to the idea of not holding hands or being touched in public to individuals that just didn't want to be perceived as "too queer" trying to relegate our affections as a way of damage control in a heteronormative world that isn't ready.

This can certainly be Truth in Television, as homophobia and queerphobia are still apparent in the world, and are true law in some places.

A common tool they might use for their cause is a kind of supposed pity, trying to impose a negative self-image on the non-normative characters or trying to explain it as caused by a meaningless childhood 'sin' like being given the 'wrong' toys.

Alternatively, the argued (or even actual) cause of a character's queerness may be explained as a dramatic sexual experience such as rape, often in conjunction with the idea of them therefore being broken and needing to be 'fixed', possibly in the same manner.

Sometimes I pass as a gay man, sometimes I'm seen as a butch woman, some perceive me as a 15 year old version of one of those two options, but regardless of what I am passing as, it's always been pretty queer.

I identify myself as being on the transmasculine spectrum and being attracted to other masculine bodies: whether that is butch/stud women, trans/cis men, genderqueery/fluid folks, etc.

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  1. Sexual Script Theory Gagnon & Simon, 1973 to examine the dating and relationships. normative scripts, either heteronormative or homonormative.

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