Knowing When to Act Adopting the Attitude Taking Action Community Q&A Being mean and intimidating all the time can be exhausting and won't help you make any friends.However, there are times when it's absolutely necessary to scare people off a little bit and to assert yourself. Our counsellors have put together some practical tips to help you with the most common relationship problems. Whatever you're going through in your relationship, it can be comforting to know that you're not alone.
Emotional blackmail is a term coined by psychotherapist Susan Forward, about controlling people in relationships and the theory that fear, obligation and guilt (FOG) are the transactional dynamics at play between the controller and the person being controlled.The tactics themselves are psychologically and sometimes physically abusive.Control may be helped through economic abuse thus limiting the victim's actions as they may then lack the necessary resources to resist the abuse. No matter how friendly you try to be, there are still people who are intimidated by you.It doesn't seem to matter what you do, there are those who are afraid to approach you and who label you as aloof, cold, or unapproachable.An Aries can get very intimidating just by speaking their mind especially since they don't hold back or try to soften their words so no one gets hurt.If Aries' words offend, they'll apologize after the fact.Understanding these dynamics are useful to anyone trying to extricate from the controlling behavior of another person, and deal with their own compulsions to do things that are uncomfortable, undesirable, burdensome, or self-sacrificing for others.There are different levels of demands - demands that are of little consequence, demands that involve important issues or personal integrity, demands that affect major life decisions, and/or demands that are dangerous or illegal.Isolation, gaslighting, mind games, lying, disinformation, propaganda, destabilisation and divide and rule are other strategies that are often used.The victim may be plied with alcohol or drugs to help disorientate them.